Seth Godin has an insightful post on the connection between our moods and the life we experience.
Are you seeking out the imperfect to justify your habit of being unhappy? Does something have to happen in the outside world for you to be happy inside?
Or, to put it differently, Is there a narrative of your reality that supports your mood?
He makes several good points, and comes to a conclusion that is empowering. You should read it.
From reading Proverbs 18:20-21, I’d take it a step further. I wrote about it a few days ago – check it out.